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Time to worry about women

Anushka Sharma and Sunil Gavaskar

Not much has changed for women till today despite all claims of empowerment. They are still suffering in silence.

If you are preparing yourself for the counter argument, then hang on. Just read different news coming on various media platforms past few days, you may get the idea of reality. And please don’t use some stereotypes to claim that women are in good positions in our society.

The common women are still facing a lot of mental, physical and psychological problems just because men are reluctant to change their perception. Even the so-called empowered woman is not spared from this rotten attitude of men.

The latest example is the inclusion of Anushaka Sharma in Sunil Gavasker’s comment on Virat Kohli’s performance. And the poor fellow he is still unable to understand what wrong he has done. He cannot because he has grown up in the atmosphere where the wives have always been used to ridicule husbands.

The worldwide increase in the cases of domestic violence in corona times has opened the eyes of many. The very movement of feminism seems mocking when you come to know that inside many homes, a fractured body and broken soul is sobbing in the corner because of increasing cases of domestic violence. All claims of women empowerment look flattened when some try to justify it.

It becomes very pathetic when someone argues that it’s happening as the consequence of depression men are facing. Fair enough, What about women? Do they have same right- “to be depressed and raise hands on the partner”?

Anushka Sharma

Interestingly, You read a news report of Shivangi Singh on one side who will fly Rafael soon and then from the other side you get the news from the same state, that a son-desperate husband has attacked his wife with sickle to know the gender of the sixth expected child, as they are already parent of five daughters. Really!!?? The poor lady who was about to give birth to a life is fighting for her life in ICU today.

The cruel rape and murder of the girl child is becoming so common that it has stopped appearing on the front page of the newspapers. Every second day we hear (still sadly) the stories of the married women beaten up by in-laws. Not much has changed to the working women also as they still have to take care of home affairs in addition to their workplace responsibility.

The girls from the under privileged section are affected the most. Having parents working on daily wages and not being available most of the time makes these little girls highly vulnerable. The early pregnancies followed by abortions are so much prevalent that may take you by surprise. And if the abortion is not possible, it leads to a hasty marriage between 13-14-year-old tender girl and 18-19-year-old unemployed immature boy or family shaming.

The government is planning to raise the marriage age of girls from 18 to 21, without addressing these issues. The slogan of Beti Padao, Beti Bachao will be of no use if we don’t look at things from a holistic perspective. From workplace to home, women still have a long way to go and get things straight for themselves.

It will be a difficult task if men don’t change their attitude towards them. And to change men, the only way viable and sensible is to raise our sons with the better understanding of the ‘other’ that must be treated as equal and with respect. In all possible ways, we need to make men understand that women as mother is not the only one worthy of respect but woman as woman too. It may take time but will definitely bring change.

Men also need to take a call. Before pitching any insensitive remark or indecent act against women, they are also expected to think twice about the kind of society will be created for their daughters’. After all, it is their job too.

Dr Neha Tiwari is an academic, writer, critic and filmmaker. She has been nominated as a member of the jury for best writing in cinema for the 65th National Film Awards. She has written 6 state-level radio features and 1 Serial for AIR. Her area of interest includes media, literature and life. She teaches in Karim City College Jamshedpur as an Assistant Professor of English. She is also nurturing Mass Communication as Professor In-Charge since 2005.


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